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Monday, January 28, 2013
One weekend in January...
Wow... had a super loooonggggg weekend that I haven't been able to have in a good while... 5 whole days of fun with my Jellybean...heart of my heart... and added spice to my perfect weekend dish... movie outing with my hubby (hahaha 2nd movie in 1 week - what a record) and a whole lotta time with my kiddos.
Shiya was super manja with me yesterday.. I guess after 4 days of mummy love she just wants me to cuddle and smother some more with my love... hehehe... yes, she is getting superbly manja and clingy (Alhamdulillah)... before you balk at my response...do read all that I had to go through to be this close to my little girl... hehehe... so am a happy bee...
I also had a GREAT time babysitting my 2 lil kiddos for 3 days... hehehe sis was out on a weekend date to Singapore... so I got to have them sleepover at my house on Fri... quite by chance since I wasn't even planning to take leave that day... and some good morning loving and Toys R Us outing on sat... and an impromptu Midvalley run on Sun... hehehe it has been such a long time since I had them all to myself since we moved out to Bangi that it was a wonderful wonderful time... which I hope they agree as well :) Farel was the luckiest though since he got the most gifties on our outings... heheheh (Only cos he is the oldest and knows to mintak most profusely) :P
All in all... it has been great.. and I was lucky to have my understanding hubby who even though struggles to grasp how crazy I am to have a truck load of kids with me all the time (comes with 2 maids - so no... I didn't handle all 3 kids by myself except when they are in my room)... still loves me for me and strives to look past all that and have fun... God must have heard and answered my prayers... because though I am still learning... I find that many of my actions shows me a better way to make my day or life as you may say... brighter.... I think the word that I am looking for is compromise... hehehe
So here's to hoping for a better week ahead... :)
Shiya was super manja with me yesterday.. I guess after 4 days of mummy love she just wants me to cuddle and smother some more with my love... hehehe... yes, she is getting superbly manja and clingy (Alhamdulillah)... before you balk at my response...do read all that I had to go through to be this close to my little girl... hehehe... so am a happy bee...
I also had a GREAT time babysitting my 2 lil kiddos for 3 days... hehehe sis was out on a weekend date to Singapore... so I got to have them sleepover at my house on Fri... quite by chance since I wasn't even planning to take leave that day... and some good morning loving and Toys R Us outing on sat... and an impromptu Midvalley run on Sun... hehehe it has been such a long time since I had them all to myself since we moved out to Bangi that it was a wonderful wonderful time... which I hope they agree as well :) Farel was the luckiest though since he got the most gifties on our outings... heheheh (Only cos he is the oldest and knows to mintak most profusely) :P
All in all... it has been great.. and I was lucky to have my understanding hubby who even though struggles to grasp how crazy I am to have a truck load of kids with me all the time (comes with 2 maids - so no... I didn't handle all 3 kids by myself except when they are in my room)... still loves me for me and strives to look past all that and have fun... God must have heard and answered my prayers... because though I am still learning... I find that many of my actions shows me a better way to make my day or life as you may say... brighter.... I think the word that I am looking for is compromise... hehehe
So here's to hoping for a better week ahead... :)
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
I turned 30!!
Yes yesterday was 30 years after i was born... Funny how I thought that sounded so old and wise before. Yet here I am... Still very much me and baby to my parents...hehehe
My sweetie sis baked a cake for me and came to our Bangi house to sing. Even though I knew about it thanx to my maid....it was still a super surprise to me...hehehehe...
Hubby gave me a rose just before midnight and morning came with a special card just for me... :)
As like every year...had lunch with besties at...hahaha where else but my fav Chilies...ordering my fav mushroom swiss burger...hehehe dont think i'll ever change ;) got some amazing goodies from them...tq sweethearts!
We also went to Thirty Eight for my bday celebration that night...hehehe fancy smanchy indeed! Food was yummy if u like the fancy dining stuff and price was off the charts...hahaaa so not romantic for me to mention price but at the rate one steak was going, it just had to be said...hehehe tq hubby darling...
AND..... Hubby surprises me with a garnet ring!! Hehehe true i mentioned that i wanted it but i honestly didnt think he bought for it for me... Hehehe... I looooveee it soooo much :) *big grin all over*
We actually dropped by the house in subang hoping to see my Jellybean... But she was out with Michu..but managed to catch my parents unawares... Hehehe and got my wonderful bday prez... An air frier! Hahahaha... Love my parents so much!! True i used Shiya's name and health to wiggle the gift from them...but getting it makes me feel like a 9 year old again... Hehehe (see who says turning 30 is a sign of maturity?)...
We went to watch a movie after...
That was my bday and i must say.... This year began softly and turned up full of surprises...
Tq hubby for making such a huge deal to make my birthday a special one.. You're my rock..n my love... Love u lots!
:)
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Sunday, January 20, 2013
2013 Adventure
USA 2013 trip... Soon... Err hubby is only sending his passport tmrw :)
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A glimpse of my soon 2 year old princess jellybean....
The last pic was taken yesterday...don't be fooled by her tears... Hrhehe.. She wanted her mummy's hp...
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Friday, January 18, 2013
Pre USA trip...
2013... a year with many possiblities...
The new year came and went... and in case you were wondering... the stuffs I promise to do before I turn 30 did not get done... hahaha don't ask me which one because I refuse to look at the list that never got done! :P It's the new year after all... time to start a new list wouldn't you say?
Anyhow... this year is the year that my parents-in-law are going to take our little family on a long holiday... hehehe long awaited hols to USA... ahhhhh.. been wanting to go there since goodness knows when! I can't believe it has been almost 15 years since I was last there... never appreciated the time given to me that time.. and now it took that long for me to finally find a way there.
I still remember when I went there when I was 14 years old... I bought Doritos (still my fav) from a vending machine.. and watch a few boys playing basketball at a nearby court (was staying at Ramada Inn then). The air was brisk since it was spring.
Now I'll be going there with my hubby and baby girl... and I am super excited... hehehe of course I must add that shopping would be great too! :) So many stuffs that I love here that we can get a super cheaper prices... heheheh
But I must say... getting the visa for our stay was super hard... hahaha... ok it wasn't that hard... just a lot of that and this... for starters... before even setting foot to USA we needed to pay the visa application fee and one application is USD160! So the 3 of us was a costly sum of RM1.5k ++.... then we needed to get our pictures taken and we needed to be careful because they have a lot of do's and dont's on this one... Of course little Miss Shiya has decided that she doesn't like having her picture taken and no amount of Minnie Mouse or pringles (yes.. guilty) can make her sit quietly and look straight at the camera. We had to go to the photo shop twice! In the end luckily the girl was quick to snap a somewhat straight face pose of shiya (her body was tilted towards me) and Alhamdulillah... the picture passed.
After numerous trips to the photoshop because hubby did not make sure that the girl gave us a correct softcopy (which we need to upload in the application)... we were able to settle our application the day before our interview... hahahah there's a another mistake.... we should have completed it BEFORE we set our appointment... unfortunately we overlooked that part (seriously I feel so immature and speechless about this bit). We had the interview scheduled before we started our application... tsk tsk..
We had the interviewed schedules at 10am.. though we got there before 9.30... imagine it took us almost 30 mintues just to step inside... First you gotta queue up to get a number...this is where you leave your IC and show your appointment letter.. next you have to queue up to go in... and they only let it 2 at a time at the guard house... because this is where they scan you and your bag... all digital things will be taken away from you... so if you are scared you'd get bored inside... bring a book. ;)
The first thoughts me and hubby had as we stepped out was.... "wow... hehehe... feels different in here.." (hubby's words) hahaha... yeah... it felt different... though I must say that was silly cos... goodness.. it's not like we were in Narnia... :P I think we were just into that moment... hahaha very like a Japan tourist with a big old cammy taking pics of KLCC... we were enchanted... hehehehe
Inside was more waiting.. oh we had to take out a number... then when the number is called we pass our documents... passports... and waited again... when they call out number again... our finger prints were taken... hehehe... and more waiting... then they call us for an interview... I was really nervous by then... hehehe.. but the guy was nice and didn't ask funny questions... but he scanned my application so many times I was sure I failed. But....he said.. "Maam, you and your child can pick up your visa tmrw.."... I was so happy!!!... Then I was like... errr..... hubby??
Unfortunately hubby fell into one of those 'random' buckets that they needed to do a background check first so he can only proceed to pass his passport when they call... Basically he got the pink slip... :(
Oh dear...
Both my bro in law and mum in law had to wait so long when they got the pink slip... but hubby got his call today...! yeay!... so USA here we come... or rather... we'll be there MARCH! *big smiles*
This is darling Jellybean's 3rd trip... first being the trip to Jakarta... 2nd to Penang... hehehe... 20 hour flight... hmmm.... :)
For more info on the visa... go to... http://www.ustraveldocs.com/my/
The new year came and went... and in case you were wondering... the stuffs I promise to do before I turn 30 did not get done... hahaha don't ask me which one because I refuse to look at the list that never got done! :P It's the new year after all... time to start a new list wouldn't you say?
Anyhow... this year is the year that my parents-in-law are going to take our little family on a long holiday... hehehe long awaited hols to USA... ahhhhh.. been wanting to go there since goodness knows when! I can't believe it has been almost 15 years since I was last there... never appreciated the time given to me that time.. and now it took that long for me to finally find a way there.
I still remember when I went there when I was 14 years old... I bought Doritos (still my fav) from a vending machine.. and watch a few boys playing basketball at a nearby court (was staying at Ramada Inn then). The air was brisk since it was spring.
Now I'll be going there with my hubby and baby girl... and I am super excited... hehehe of course I must add that shopping would be great too! :) So many stuffs that I love here that we can get a super cheaper prices... heheheh
But I must say... getting the visa for our stay was super hard... hahaha... ok it wasn't that hard... just a lot of that and this... for starters... before even setting foot to USA we needed to pay the visa application fee and one application is USD160! So the 3 of us was a costly sum of RM1.5k ++.... then we needed to get our pictures taken and we needed to be careful because they have a lot of do's and dont's on this one... Of course little Miss Shiya has decided that she doesn't like having her picture taken and no amount of Minnie Mouse or pringles (yes.. guilty) can make her sit quietly and look straight at the camera. We had to go to the photo shop twice! In the end luckily the girl was quick to snap a somewhat straight face pose of shiya (her body was tilted towards me) and Alhamdulillah... the picture passed.
After numerous trips to the photoshop because hubby did not make sure that the girl gave us a correct softcopy (which we need to upload in the application)... we were able to settle our application the day before our interview... hahahah there's a another mistake.... we should have completed it BEFORE we set our appointment... unfortunately we overlooked that part (seriously I feel so immature and speechless about this bit). We had the interview scheduled before we started our application... tsk tsk..
We had the interviewed schedules at 10am.. though we got there before 9.30... imagine it took us almost 30 mintues just to step inside... First you gotta queue up to get a number...this is where you leave your IC and show your appointment letter.. next you have to queue up to go in... and they only let it 2 at a time at the guard house... because this is where they scan you and your bag... all digital things will be taken away from you... so if you are scared you'd get bored inside... bring a book. ;)
The first thoughts me and hubby had as we stepped out was.... "wow... hehehe... feels different in here.." (hubby's words) hahaha... yeah... it felt different... though I must say that was silly cos... goodness.. it's not like we were in Narnia... :P I think we were just into that moment... hahaha very like a Japan tourist with a big old cammy taking pics of KLCC... we were enchanted... hehehehe
Inside was more waiting.. oh we had to take out a number... then when the number is called we pass our documents... passports... and waited again... when they call out number again... our finger prints were taken... hehehe... and more waiting... then they call us for an interview... I was really nervous by then... hehehe.. but the guy was nice and didn't ask funny questions... but he scanned my application so many times I was sure I failed. But....he said.. "Maam, you and your child can pick up your visa tmrw.."... I was so happy!!!... Then I was like... errr..... hubby??
Unfortunately hubby fell into one of those 'random' buckets that they needed to do a background check first so he can only proceed to pass his passport when they call... Basically he got the pink slip... :(
Oh dear...
Both my bro in law and mum in law had to wait so long when they got the pink slip... but hubby got his call today...! yeay!... so USA here we come... or rather... we'll be there MARCH! *big smiles*
This is darling Jellybean's 3rd trip... first being the trip to Jakarta... 2nd to Penang... hehehe... 20 hour flight... hmmm.... :)
For more info on the visa... go to... http://www.ustraveldocs.com/my/
Thursday, January 17, 2013
Time Out
So what would you do if your child started throwing a temper tantrum and screaming her her lungs out... because she didn't get what she wants? What if it happened in a shopping malls where people will actually stop... or worse... actually whisper (loudly) for your benefit... "what's wrong with the baby?"... ??
I don't know about other parents.. perhaps they have a better view or technique but I find that mine works best for my baby... and that is timeout. I had generally believe that this is the best and recommended... but after reading some opinions on Baby Centre (a good website) I realise that some have negative thoughts on this method. Ok, let me just briefly explain how I try to take control of the situation when Shiya the 'hulk' comes out :P
1. If she is struggling and throwing her body... I will get down on my knees and try to cradle her or if that seems to cause greater struggle... I just gently let her be on the floor though am close in case she decides to bang her head or bang her angkles...I read somewhere they they lack the words or knowledge on how to express their frustration or anger.. so this is their way to lash out...
2. I wait until the storm to calm down... any small clue would help like the sudden stop of struggling on her part... or the scream that seems to be winding down... it shows me that she's ready to be comforted...
3. If nothing seems to soothe her... then I would say sharply.. just clear enough for her to hear (though I try not to shout it) .. "QUIET!" "shhhhh" (this sometimes to be repeated a few times)
4. I always make sure that I am giving eye contact when I do this because I want her to see how serious I am
5. I take her away from whatever it is that provoked her in the first place
6. Then I make her sit facing a wall... and told to sit down, be quiet and think about what she's done...of course she might cry louder at this rate... but it's crying... and no longer shouting... she will look around for help but I sit next to her so she knows its just me... the wall... and her time right there...
7. If its in a public place I have never taken her to a wall but buckle her into her stroller instead and close the top part... no one talks to her until I give the signal
8. After she has calmed down... I will look her in the eye and tell her it's NOT ok to scream.. and that she shouldn't do that again... we hug and make up.. :)
Amazingly this has worked for us... she is less prone to tantrums... and though she has her bad mood moments but she has also learned to control and not make such a fuss... I think a lot of times timeouts doesn't work for a parent is because:
1. timeouts should be done when the baby is actually starting to communicate with you... then there is that 2 way communication
2. The time should be equal to their age... a few seconds for yound ones and a lil longer for the older ones... this is because their attention span is shorter when they are younger
3. Parents don't really explain to the child why they were made to sit in a corner in the first place
4. Others overidding the parents words and taking the child out... it should always be the parent who put the child in the timeout... to give time to heal and make up for both parties
5. My sister read somewhere that the 'punishment' should match the 'crime' (lack of other more appropriate words)... and I believe this is true... so I am happy that I did it right... her timeout is her quiet time... for when she loses control and have a screaming fit... not when she hit.. throws something...
My baby girl will be 2 soon... and she grows brighter and lovelier each day... A mother can only hope that whatever we may convey to our little ones is the best because ultimately we wish to be the best for them.. always...
I don't know about other parents.. perhaps they have a better view or technique but I find that mine works best for my baby... and that is timeout. I had generally believe that this is the best and recommended... but after reading some opinions on Baby Centre (a good website) I realise that some have negative thoughts on this method. Ok, let me just briefly explain how I try to take control of the situation when Shiya the 'hulk' comes out :P
1. If she is struggling and throwing her body... I will get down on my knees and try to cradle her or if that seems to cause greater struggle... I just gently let her be on the floor though am close in case she decides to bang her head or bang her angkles...I read somewhere they they lack the words or knowledge on how to express their frustration or anger.. so this is their way to lash out...
2. I wait until the storm to calm down... any small clue would help like the sudden stop of struggling on her part... or the scream that seems to be winding down... it shows me that she's ready to be comforted...
3. If nothing seems to soothe her... then I would say sharply.. just clear enough for her to hear (though I try not to shout it) .. "QUIET!" "shhhhh" (this sometimes to be repeated a few times)
4. I always make sure that I am giving eye contact when I do this because I want her to see how serious I am
5. I take her away from whatever it is that provoked her in the first place
6. Then I make her sit facing a wall... and told to sit down, be quiet and think about what she's done...of course she might cry louder at this rate... but it's crying... and no longer shouting... she will look around for help but I sit next to her so she knows its just me... the wall... and her time right there...
7. If its in a public place I have never taken her to a wall but buckle her into her stroller instead and close the top part... no one talks to her until I give the signal
8. After she has calmed down... I will look her in the eye and tell her it's NOT ok to scream.. and that she shouldn't do that again... we hug and make up.. :)
Amazingly this has worked for us... she is less prone to tantrums... and though she has her bad mood moments but she has also learned to control and not make such a fuss... I think a lot of times timeouts doesn't work for a parent is because:
1. timeouts should be done when the baby is actually starting to communicate with you... then there is that 2 way communication
2. The time should be equal to their age... a few seconds for yound ones and a lil longer for the older ones... this is because their attention span is shorter when they are younger
3. Parents don't really explain to the child why they were made to sit in a corner in the first place
4. Others overidding the parents words and taking the child out... it should always be the parent who put the child in the timeout... to give time to heal and make up for both parties
5. My sister read somewhere that the 'punishment' should match the 'crime' (lack of other more appropriate words)... and I believe this is true... so I am happy that I did it right... her timeout is her quiet time... for when she loses control and have a screaming fit... not when she hit.. throws something...
My baby girl will be 2 soon... and she grows brighter and lovelier each day... A mother can only hope that whatever we may convey to our little ones is the best because ultimately we wish to be the best for them.. always...
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